Over here at AfterParty, we receive an onslaught of questions from people about addiction and recovery. And well, our new video series AfterParty Answers gives us an opportunity to address them. In this episode, Anna David and Danielle Stewart reach into the AfterParty archives to answer a reader’s question about talking to a friend about her alcoholism.
This is a question that’s been around since man (and woman) first crushed grapes and the answers don’t get any simpler. As anyone who’s watched Intervention surely knows, alcoholism tears apart families in ways arguably more severe than any other disease out there.
But what’s going to be effective in terms of helping one alcoholic shape up isn’t necessarily going to work on the next one, in much the same way that no set number of Alanon meetings is going to get a spouse or a kid or a parent to put down the bottle. Yes, there’s the Candy Finnigan way—cut off contact, stop giving them money, make it clear you love them but won’t enable them—but there are some other options out there. As we wrote in December of 2015
, there’s a new approach called CRAFT, which stands for Community Reinforcement and Family Training and motivational rather than confrontational, and believes that family support can be crucial to someone’s decision to try to quit and seek treatment.
Of course this is a complicated question so for a longer answer, check out out this vid. While we aren’t in any way medical professions (emphasis on “aren’t in any way medical professionals”), we are sober folks who have not only grappled with some of the issues being asked about but have also written scads of articles for this very site on them. Tune in every Wednesday to see what you, our faithful readers, want to know.
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